Shane Patrick 1987-2011

February 3, 2011

Many of you may have noticed that there has been quite a delay in postings.  I am writing you now from the snowy depths on New Jersey where Kurt and I are currently residing.

In true sadness I must relay that we are home because of a tragic occurrence. A little over two weeks ago we received word that my brother had passed away.  Kurt and I were off the coast of Belize on a small caye.

There is nothing in the world that I can truly imagine that would be worse than this.  And yet, it is now our reality.  It has confirmed my largest nightmares, and even then, managed to go completely beyond.  The pain and sadness are immense.  My heart is broken. The same goes for everyone else affected by Shane’s passing.

My brother was true magic.  He has touched the life of every single person he came in contact with, from the day he was born until the untimely passing just short of his 24th birthday.  The love and support that has surrounded my family at this time is unbelievable and is only trumped by the love, support and honor that Shane has shown to each individual he has ever interacted with.

I could write you 1,000 pages on how amazing Shane was while he was here with us.  He was the greatest friend , son, brother and young man you could ever imagine.  He set the bar for how a person should be.  I greatly admired Shane and looked up to him, as I still do and will continue to.  I am sure I am not alone when I say that if you considered Shane to be on your side, nothing could go wrong.

With that said, I must convey how strongly that I feel Shane is still here with me and us every single minute of every single day.  Where he once before was this brother of mine who I cherished more than anything, living in Chicago, doing his thing, making his way in the working world, getting big in life and bringing joy to everyone he was interacting with each and everyday, he now is the brother who is with me with every thought, every word, every decision.  He is right there with everything I see, what I choose to say, how I choose to think.  He is with me and I know this.  I feel it.  Even with all of the love and support pouring from everyone around, the thoughts of Shane here with me now are the only things that truly help get me through these days.

I wish to encourage anyone else who is dealing with a similar occurrence, if it is pertaining to Shane or if it is pertaining to somebody else, try to feel this way.  Try and keep your loved one ever-present in your daily minds and actions.   One thing that I learned from our time in Mexico is that life is truly something to be celebrated.  This is the way that Shane lived his life, each and everyday.  I plan to honor him in this way and I encourage you to do the same.  Love your life, celebrate yourself and those around you, honor and respect each other and everyday and live your life to the max.

There are little pieces of Shane in all of us now.  I have seen them in others and I have felt them so strongly in myself.  They are the most pure goodness one could ever imagine.  Letting ourselves be guided by this, we are honoring Shane.

He always was and always will be my SP Ghost.  I love you Shane.

Kevin, Kelly and Shane, circa 1992 in Long Beach Island...

Shane, 2009, co-captain of the Lehigh Lacrosse Men's Team...

A memorial fund has been set up in Shane’s name for High Level Lacrosse, a company my other brother and some friends own and operate.  The company is soon to be renamed SPD Lacrosse in Shane’s honor and will continue to embody all that was and is the epic spirit of my brother.  If you are interested in donating or reading more, please click here.

Kurt and I will continue our journey in early March.  Back on the bikes continuing south, we will have Shane’s heart, determination, power and guidance with us stronger than ever.

7 Responses to “Shane Patrick 1987-2011”

  1. Lauren said

    ❤ shane ❤

  2. Carina said

    to pure goodness…to shane…to celebrating life.

  3. Kim Brackett Manson said


    This is beautifully written, and an amazing tribute to Shane. I only knew Shane when he was little, but what a sweet boy he was. I thank God that you can so strongly feel his presence. That is such a blessing in a difficult time. You area all in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. Meghan Dowling said

    Kelly, your words about Shane are truly beautiful. May you continue to carry Shane’s memory and spirit with you in all that you do and may he continue to inspire you to find the true goodness and celebration of life in all of your days. ❤

    • Christine Lauro said

      My thoughts are prayers are with you during this time. What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful person.

  5. Mills said

    I’m truly saddened to hear of your family loss. I understand your pain and wish you nothing but the best during these hard times. My father passed away a little more than a year ago and it was the hardest thing I ever had to deal with. There was no quick solution to making things better in the short run. Time helped heal wounds in the long run, but the scars still remain. The good news is that you’re already on the right track. Cherish the good times you had and keep those times near and dear.
    Once again, I’m sorry for your loss.

  6. Sandra Safadirazieli said

    Dear Kelly,
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May Shane’s memory continue to be a blessing for you and all those dear to him. My thoughts are with you.

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